tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5662912670944959364.post2407987681810516682..comments2021-09-07T12:16:56.237+02:00Comments on Sexual Ramblings: ...and the low point.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5662912670944959364.post-90368211300468897982016-05-20T17:45:23.151+02:002016-05-20T17:45:23.151+02:00Thank you for your comment, Ferns. :)
After getti...Thank you for your comment, Ferns. :)<br /><br />After getting out of that funk I was in, and looking more closely at what had happened, I came to much the same conclusions myself.<br /><br />But it's nice to get confirmed that those conclusions probably are the right ones. :)Sexybluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14568976240641331989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5662912670944959364.post-74153231212391081262016-05-11T03:50:45.189+02:002016-05-11T03:50:45.189+02:00This hurt a bit to read because I see myself in it...This hurt a bit to read because I see myself in it, I too can be a bit of a steamroller :/.<br /><br />As I was reading it, I WAS thinking 'why on earth do you need him to justify something to you? No means no and his reasons are his'.<br /><br />Reading on, I understand your thought process, perhaps too well because I see myself in it. "But why?"<br /><br />My thoughts: If you hit something that triggers an emotional reaction, a hard 'no', then 'no means no' and that means it's done.<br /><br />If you've just discovered that it's a sore spot, right then and there is NOT the time to dig at it because when it's first uncovered, it's raw. Honour their feelings, put it away.<br /><br />Later at some point when the charge of it has dissipated, ask gently about it, NOT to 'question their conviction' or get them to rationalise or justify it to you or themselves (they don't owe you that and I can't see how that approach wouldn't make someone defensive), but in pursuit of understanding and intimacy, and PRESENT it that way to them. That you ask NOT because you want to challenge them, but because you want to understand them better.<br /><br />I get why you feel bad, I do think maybe you misjudged the situation, but that doesn't mean that 'all of everything forever' was wrong. At all.<br /><br />If I was you, I'd apologise, make it better, tread gently, explore it more as a path to understanding at some later point.<br /><br />I hope it resolves quickly and easily for you both.<br /><br />Ferns Fernshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08120135882551792775noreply@blogger.com